Is it obvious that once we enter into marriage or a committed relationship, our language shifts from 'me' to 'us'? Does it imply that an individual suddenly merges into a couple, losing their sense of self? What lies behind phrases like 'the transformation from me to we,' 'us,' or 'two becoming one'? Are they genuine reflections of personal growth, or merely catchy social media captions aimed at evoking emotions? In this piece, I'll delve into my perspective on not only this topic but as a whole on overall aspects of modern relationship, sharing my personal experiences too.
Just today, while scrolling through Instagram, I came across a post from a famous person who recently got married. The image portrayed a beautiful couple, radiating joy and love. However, it was the caption that caught my attention and prompted a moment of reflection. It wasn't particularly unique or deeply meaningful, yet it resonated with me in a profound way. A very wonderful transition of life, from 'me' to 'us', from 'she' to 'them'. I realized that not only today, but from this day forward, they will be together till the end, sharing everything and forever living together. How beautiful it is!
Whenever someone asks, "Are you single or do you have a partner?" we often take it for granted, as if it's okay to have one or not. Relationships seem quite common these days, from teens to older people, spanning age gaps, late marriages, and even with similar genders. Everything seems so smooth and easy, because everyone knows that sooner or later, everyone will have someone. But I wonder if anyone takes the time to think deeply about this matter, and how wonderfully it impacts our lives. If taken positively, there will be someone for us, no matter what, to support us in every odd, to live with us, to love us, and to make us feel special—someone only meant for us. No more expectations, but still existence matters.
In today's world, casual relationships are more common. And
even if they're not intentionally casual, they seem to be. Reflecting deeply on
this matter, those who stay in a relationship might not be mature enough to
understand the sentiments behind it. If anyone actually cares about the deep
meaning of togetherness, then I'm sure it will last long.
Speaking from my personal experiences, I've recently
realized that crushing over someone is just a waste of time. It doesn't make
sense to love and give importance to someone if you can't be together. Casual
relationships are poison for your mental health. If you have no intent of being
with each other, then stay single and save yourself from lifelong regret. Don’t
hurt and don’t get hurt by others. If you're ultimately committed to a person,
then everything is fair in love. If you get a chance to do so, do anything for
them, but the other side should have the same feelings for you. If they cheat
or are not serious, maintain a boundary. In every relationship, self-ethics and
limits should be understood by both of you. These may be considered as
relationship advice, but you can see from this that my perception is clear.
A mature relationship is beautiful, and it is at its best when both partners are serious and mature enough for it. Everyone needs to understand how much weight, a mature relationship holds.
